March 14th Sacred Head & Steak
Reclaiming March 14 as Ritual, Not Obligation So what is so significant about March 14, Ziakeya? Let’s start here. Every year, right after Valentine’s Day, something starts circulating online: Steak and BJ Day If you’ve never looked into it, here’s the short version. Valentine’s Day is marketed as the day men go all out for women — flowers, dinner, romance, gifts. So sometime in the early 2000s internet era, Steak and BJ Day was created as the “men’s turn.” You cook him a steak. You perform fellatio, head, a BJ, that sloppy toppy lol… whatever y’all wanna call it. Everybody laughs. Cute joke. But let’s pause. Because if we’re being honest, we already live in a world that centers men most of the time. When people say “patriarchy,” they’re not talking about some abstract theory. They’re talking about a system that, historically and culturally, has prioritized men’s comfort, authority, and access — including access to women’s bodies…...